Memorialization

Is a Remembrance Service Appropriate?
Yes, a remembrance is a caring and meaningful event in which family and friends have an
opportunity to honor their loved one and say a last "good-bye." Viewing the deceased's
body before cremation often helps the bereaved accept the fact a death has occurred and
resolve grief more readily.

How is a cremation service different from a traditional funeral service?
It isn't. At least it doesn't have to be different. The extent and the content of a cremation
service is entirely subject to the wishes of the family. They may choose as much a formality
or as little as they want to have and they also may have more options when cremation is
chosen. Quite often a memorial service is held after cremation has occurred or perhaps the
family will gather at a convenient time for the burial committal of the cremated remains.

Is a casket required?
Most crematories require that the body at least be enclosed and in an acceptably rigid
container. This container or casket must be strong enough to assure the protection of the
health and safety of the operator. It should provide a proper covering for the body and meet
reasonable standards of respect and dignity. Some crematories will accept metal caskets
but most require that the casket or container be fashioned of a combustible material. The
body is cremated in the same enclosure in which it arrives at the crematory.

How is cremation accomplished?
The enclosed body is placed in the cremation chamber where through heat and
evaporation the body is reduced to its basic elements, which are referred to as cremated
remains. It may surprise many to learn that ashes are not the final result since cremated
remains have neither the appearance nor the chemical properties of ashes-they are, in fact,
bone fragments. After preparation, these elements are either placed in a permanent urn or
in a temporary container that is suitable for transport.

Depending on the size of the body, there are normally three to nine pounds of fragments
resulting. Some crematories process the cremated remains, thereby reducing the space
they require. Others do not alter their condition after they are removed from the chamber.

Isn't cremation an end in itself?
Some people may regard it as such, but most families feel that the cremated remains of
someone they love should be afforded a resting place that can be identified by the name
and dates. This is memorialization. Most families find that a memorial, regardless of its
size, serves as a basic human need to remember and be remembered.

What choices of memorialization are available?
A final resting place for cremated remains can be provided by various means. The family
may choose from a full selection of urns for permanent containment of the cremated
remains. The urns may be placed in a columbarium, which is a building or structure where
single niche space or family units may be selected. Niches are recessed compartments
enclosed by either glass protecting the engraved urn or ornamental fronts upon which the
name and dates are engraved. Of course, family lots may be used and cemeteries often
permit the internment of more than one person in an adult space if cremation has occurred.
In many cemeteries there are also specially designed areas for this purpose, which are
called urn gardens.

What about scattering cremated remains?
This may be legally done in most areas, however many believe that in consideration of the
descendants of the departed that some form of memorialization should be provided.
Furthermore, there are reasons for not scattering, because it is for many a very traumatic
experience. It can be soul shaking to spill out all that is mortal of someone you have known
and loved. One should realize how much is being asked of the person who is to do the
scattering. Some crematories provide scattering gardens within the dedicated property,
often with the option of personal memorials. The use of dedicated property assures the site
chosen will not be developed for other use at some future time.

How does the cost of cremation compare with burial or entombment?
The basic charge for just cremation is somewhat less than traditional burial. However, with
so many items of service available both in the funeral service before and in the mode of
disposition after, it's not possible to make an accurate comparison. Again, the family has
the option to select as much or as little as they choose and with cremation they have more
options.

Is a funeral director necessary?
Some governmental jurisdictions require a licensed person to transport a body and to
obtain the necessary permits. Funeral directors are among those so licensed and are the
only ones permitted to do so in some jurisdictions. Normally, the funeral director performs
the same professional functions regarding cremations as in any other service. In some
areas funeral directors operate crematories in conjunction with their funeral homes.

Is embalming necessary?
No, but the factors of time, health and possible legal regulations and religious beliefs might
make embalming prior to cremation either appropriate or necessary. As a point of
information, heart pacemakers or similar devices should be removed, because they may
become dangerous when subjected to the extreme heat of the cremation chamber.

Are more people choosing cremation today?
Yes. The subject should certainly be resolved among family since that determination will
have to be made at the time of death. The family should visit the crematory to learn what is
offered in the way of services and memorial property. The family should consult together
ahead of time to decide what is best for all. Arrangements for memorialization also should
be made at this time. This way one of life's most difficult decisions need not be made alone
at a time of grief and confusion.

Do You Have Any Other Questions About Cremation?
If you have any questions about cremation which haven't been answered here, please feel
free to ask us. We will add frequently asked questions to the current list.

If you have any questions about cremation which have not been answered here, please feel
free to call us at (732) 521-0555 or send us an E-Mail so we can respond to your inquiry.